Paul and I drove up to CT to see my parents today. Mom was put on hospice care
about two months ago, but I naively hoped that this might have been more about changing her type of care rather than a real harbinger of what was coming. That did seem to be the case at first, but she has been declining suddenly just lately. I spoke with hospice people twice this past week, and a little with Mom herself, and decided I could not wait till next month for my next visit. I'm in the last few weeks of a graduate degree program, and we were/are planning to celebrate with my parents on Mother's Day in May, two days after I graduate. Was/am hoping to show Mom my diploma and tell her I am grateful to be following in her footsteps. (Always a hard worker, she got a Master's from Columbia when she was a brand-new mother!)
|We stopped and picked up Dad first. |
|Dad asked me to bring him toothpaste. He couldn't recall the kind he liked so Paul got him a variety.|
|Saw this old photo of my parents in my Dad's apartment.|
|Mom loves flowers|
|Mom was asleep and slept heavily throughout our entire visit. Dad was being very brave.|
|Even though Mom was sleeping we got some snuggling in|
|She loves cats: I hope she enjoys the company of a few furry friends when she wakes up!|
This is a natural phase in existence, but it is incredibly painful. Driving home we were listening to a talk by Edward Hirsch and he quoted this beautiful poem:
Life flows to death as rivers to the sea /And life is fresh and death is salt to me. (J.V. Cunningham)
Of course, everyone is hoping she will pull up out of this recent nose-dive, and she could! She's always been so strong. Keep the river flowing Mom... ♡☼♡
Sending love to all of you <3 It's so hard to watch the decline.
Sending love and many hugs to all of you. I agree, it's so painful and sad the decline of our parents and loved ones...
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